How to Find What Truly Lights You Up (and Build a Life and Business That Feels Like You)
You know that feeling when something just clicks? When you’re doing work that energises you, that flows, that feels like a full body yes? That spark is alignment, and spoiler alert, it is not just some fluffy concept. It is the secret sauce behind a fulfilling life and a business that actually feels good to run.
But here is the truth most people avoid: finding that spark is not always easy. It can feel like chasing smoke. You get caught up in the grind, ticking off the to do list, chasing what feels urgent, and somewhere along the way, you forget why you started in the first place.
Let’s fix that.
What Alignment Actually Means
Picture a massive tree. The trunk is you - your values, your vision, your vibe. The branches? They are all the areas of your life: your work, your relationships, your creativity, your rest. If those branches are out of whack, too much pressure in one spot, not enough light in another, the whole tree suffers.
Alignment means nurturing each of those branches by building from a strong, rooted core. It is about making decisions that reflect who you are, not who you think you are supposed to be.
Start With Radical Self Honesty
Take a beat. Grab a journal. Ask yourself the real questions, not the ones that sound good on paper.
When do you feel most alive?
What tasks make you forget to check your phone?
Where do you feel pulled rather than pushed?
These answers hold gold. Whether it is expressing yourself creatively, mentoring others, solving complex problems, or getting hands on with a project, pay attention. Write it all down. Clarity starts with curiosity.
Look for the Patterns
Now zoom out. What themes keep showing up? Is it creativity? Freedom? Connection? Challenge?
These are the threads you want to weave into your work and life. Instead of forcing yourself into a box, build a business that lets you lead with what you love. This is not about chasing passion for the sake of it, it is about designing a life where energy flows instead of drains.
Bring It Into Your Day to Day
This is the part where most people stop. You have got the insight, now do something with it. Realignment does not require burning everything down. Sometimes, it looks like:
Reclaiming 30 minutes for your creative outlet each day
Saying yes to a project that excites you (and no to the one that does not)
Tweaking your offers to better reflect your strengths
Changing how you show up - more real, more you
It is not about adding more. It is about choosing better.
Let It Evolve
Heads up, what lights you up today might shift tomorrow. That is not failure. That is growth.
Check in regularly. Does this still feel good? Are you still excited to show up? If not, that is your sign to pivot, refine, or release. Alignment is a relationship with yourself, and just like any relationship, it needs attention.
Choose the Right People
This part is underrated. Surrounding yourself with people who see you, support you, and get your vision will keep you going when things get wobbly. Whether it is a biz bestie, a coach, or a community, connection creates momentum.
The Bottom Line
Finding what lights you up is not a one time clarity exercise. It is a practice. A choice. A way of being.
And when you start choosing it more often, when you build a business that reflects your actual self, not just what you think will sell, you do not just feel better. You lead better. You show up with purpose, and people feel it.
That spark? It becomes your superpower.
